LOVE–Am I Responsible for My Sexual Orientation?

I’ve seen and heard the phrase, “Love is love,” a lot. You, probably, have, too. According to the Urban Dictionary, which is a web site where people, via the internet, weigh in on slang words and phrases, “Love is love,” is said to mean: 1) “The love expressed by an individual or couple is valid, regardless of the sexual orientation or gender identity of their lover or partner”1 and/or 2) “It’s not about the sex or gender of the person, but how they treat you! So, as long as you’re getting the love and affection that you need to be happy in love, then it doesn’t and/or shouldn’t matter what gender is loving you. Often a term used by bisexuals or those who have no issues with swinging with the same-sex as long as the loving is good!”1

What do we do, if our kids are in the car, and we see a sign like this? Do we address it or turn away?
What do we say, if something like this comes up, when we’re with our friends or co-workers? Do we know Truth well enough to talk about Scriptures that relate to this topic?

This post and the next one, at least, I’m going to look at Biblical interpretations of sexuality and dig into Scripture to see what God reveals about His sexuality standards. This continues the “Love Series,” if you want to call it that, which has been exposing what love does and doesn’t do, according to 1 Corinthians 13.

As a refresher from last post,…

Love Doesn’t:

  • Celebrate or enjoy violating God’s justice or abusing God’s standards (Vs. 6). I can think of many instances in our society where God’s standards are being abused…and celebrated. What He approves is being replaced (and enjoyed) by what WE approve, what WE want, what serves US. This isn’t love!

Verse 6 of 1 Corinthians 13 instructs us not to abuse God’s standards, so it’s imperative that we look deeply into God’s Word to understand what His standards truly are. It’s only then that we can properly embrace a Biblical world view of this topic, making sure what we believe isn’t merely approved by us or is what we want, but it aligns with what God prefers (the definition of the Greek word, “agapé”–love–in 1 Corinthians 13 and 1 John 4:16).

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Interpretation: The term “homosexual” refers to someone who’s sexually attracted to members of the same sex. It can refer to their actions, but it’s also been described as their “sexual orientation,” which relates more to one’s attraction to members of the same sex (be it acted on or not). Some believe most Biblical translations appear to refer to behavior (actions), rather than orientation (i.e. attraction), so what gender someone’s attracted to isn’t their choice.
In 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Paul talks about those who are guilty, in God’s court, of violating standards God requires, because He’s holy. God requires a heartful dedication to Him, which is shown in caring for, guarding, and observing His standards. Paul’s letting people know that living in a pattern of sin, which opposes God’s standards, will cause them to not be assigned a portion of opportunities that would’ve been allotted to them for a reward/inheritance in the Kingdom of God. This can be rewards to have been received on earth, if one lives in a way that is ruled by King Jesus (rather than placing oneself or some other god as king of one’s life), or in heaven, including spiritual blessings.
According to Verse 9, homosexuality is among the violations of God’s holy standards. I’m going to dig deeper into the meaning of the word “homosexuality” more next post, as it and other violations in Verses 9 and 10 tend to need, in my opinion, some further clarification. Please know, for now, that the term translated “homosexual,” in the Greek, is multifaceted and includes an array of behaviors and feelings. Yup! Feelings. It includes unnatural, indecent, offensive, immoral, or perverse feelings of sexual desire as well as actions relating to the same. I agree; a lot of what is addressed in Scripture appears to focus on actions (behavior), but when we look at the meaning in the original Greek, feelings of sexual desire (aka “orientation”) is addressed. The Greek word, translated “homosexual” is “arsenokoités;” which comes from two Greek words: 1) “arsén” (“male”) and 2) “koité.” “Koité” is where we get the deeper meanings of “homosexuality.” One of “koité’s” meanings is “chambering” or “wantonness.” Neither one of those are words I typically use, but part of the definition of “wantonness” is to wrongfully allow yourself to enjoy the satisfaction of a very strong sexual desire. Since this is included in what violates God’s standards, sexual desires outside of God’s design would be a violation. As I looked into last post, God intentionally and uniquely designed a male and female to join together to more fully reflect His nature. As we’ll look deeper into the violations of God’s standards next post, we’ll see the male and female union is designed to be enjoyed within marriage.
The Bible is full of a recurrent theme: God looks on the heart, as what comes from there can make what God created as special, not.

And He said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.”

~Jesus (Mark 7:20-23 ESV)
We may look at the things listed above and think of the actions involved, but many are unseen (i.e., evil thoughts, coveting, envy). In Matthew 5:27-28, Christ also says that if a man even looks at a woman with a strong sexual desire (attraction…or “orientation,” as many would put it today), he commits adultery, even if he doesn’t outwardly act on the desire. Here’s another example: If I don’t flaunt a win outwardly or actually steal something, I’m still committing evil in my heart because of my pride, coveting, envy, and/or evil thoughts brewing deep within. What’s in our hearts affects our thoughts and actions and is extremely important to God! “Orientation” is determining where we are…what our position is. We make this determination in our hearts.
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Questions/Conversation Starters:
What does your heart say about who you think you are and where you stand regarding your identity?
Is your heart determined to agree with what God says in His Word, or are you excluding Him from your desires and actions, serving a different king?

Thank you, LORD, for sending Your Son, Jesus, to die…that His blood can cover and forgive all sins…visible AND invisible!

1 qbox350. “Love is love” Urban Dictionary,, 22 January 2020.

2 Orators Speak. “love is love” Urban Dictionary,, 22 March 2011.

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